Monthly Archives: February 2007

Today I did
incredibly little.

Last night,
after checking my mail and investing some time into the guide to neonatal care
or whatever it was called it was bedtime. So I opened the door of my room and
wow, it sounded to me like some of the people who cohabit my house were having
sexy time. I am ok with this, but it still left me a little dumbstruck. I went
back into my room and decided that the best way to proceed. It is always
awkward when these kind things happen, and difficult to know how to proceed.

I decided
that best way was to continue what I was planning on doing – showing – in the
most subtly noisy way I could. I walked loudly, not stomped, to the kitchen to
fill a glass of water, I then walked loudly back to my room, fetched my pj and walked
loudly back to the bathroom. I used the toilet and thought the coast was
probably clear.

Nope.
Sounds indicated that some thrusting was going on with those little gasps
people take between them. Shower on. I am zen. I am in my own world.

The next
morning I really didn’t know what to do

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Today we
had to present our projects to the class. About 2 months ago we were divided up
into groups of 3. We were given a journal called “Saving Mothers – third report
into the confidential enquiry of maternal deaths in south Africa (2002-2004)” and the
world health organisation reproductive health library version 9 CD. We were
then told to choose one, or more, of the 10 recommendation from the saving
mothers journal, find a Cochrane review from the WHO RHL and do a 15 minute
presentation, make a poster and compile a report on it. This ultimately
resulted in twelve15 minute presentations, with questions, some groups running
overtime, starting late and a break in us sitting in the obstetric lecture theatre
trying to gnaw our own heads off for 4 hours.

Spent most
of the day studying and playing Neverwinter Night 2. 

I had a
difficult and meaningful discussion about my relationship with an important
person in my life. It is a very painful point and something that I am unable to
rectify. They make me feel very insecure and desperately unhappy when I need to
interact with them. They have no concept of personal boundaries and are
exemplarily emotionally dishonest. In their judgement and action they have
proven to be untrustworthy. Although I have no doubt that they would do
anything in the world for me, they have continuously done these things to my
detriment. I have worked on the issues with them for years and can attribute a
lot of the issues in my life, at least partially, to their actions. I do not
feel angry or resentful. I know that none of the numerous issues caused by them
were caused with anything but my interest in mind.

It is
difficult to have my actions mirrored back to me. I know that I have and will
cause much pain. There is nothing I can do. It is my responsibility to act in
my best interest and not theirs.  

Love and
betrayal walk hand in hand

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I concider myself quite a competent driver. The one thing which really bring the worst out in me and my driving is people who cut into long queues of traffic waiting to take a congested offramp right at the turn.

Every day I take the M5 north home to my families house in the northern suburbs. Everyday I sit in traffic for between 5 and 15 minutes and try and imagine what kind a fucking idiot built such a shit offramp/onramp. Everyday I wait and drive close to the left hand side of the road as possible in order to prevent a fucker from cutting in the queue infront of me.

Today a fucker tried to cut into the queue in front of me 1m from the offramp after I had spent 7 minutes in near stand-still traffic so I swerved at her and hooted. It was satisfying seeing her keep a 10m following distance thinking I was a lunatic. I would have liked to pull her over so that she could answer the question that has been plaguing me for ages. Why in the cold cruel world does she think that she does not have to queue but other do.

I am the change I seek

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Something which I find generally irritating
is trucks.

 

First off they think that they can drive
however they want because if they crash into you they’ll destroy you so bad
your own mother won’t be able to recognise you.

 

Secondly they keep breaking down on the
highway during peak hour traffic. Every single time I listen to the traffic
report in the morning you hear about either a broken down truck, a stationary
truck, or a truck that has lost its cargo and has caused major traffic problems
somewhere in the country.

 

Finally, they think they can park anywhere
BECAUSE they are big. Surely their large size means they need to choose a
parking space carefully. Yesterday I was going to my cousin’s house and I
turned at the robot at the top of Strand
Street where you can either go to High Level Road or Ocean View Drive. I
turned left into Ocean View Drive
where there is no pavement at all on the left side of the road and there a
fucking truck was parked, completely blocking traffic. The right hand side of
the road, going down toward Stand Street
and High Level Road
was full of traffic so I sat and waited. I would have hooted, but the truck
driver and any other workers were up 2 stories above on the pavement spading
sand into the truck.

 

I am also relatively fed up with living out
of home and anything to do with obstetrics. The bloc ends in 2 weeks, 1 week
from Friday

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I doubt that I will ever fully be ok with childbirth. I can deliver babies. I can resuscitate babies. I can examine placentas. I can even stick my hand right into somebody’s crack and scoop out a handful of their shit in a single paper towel and throw it in the bin without gagging. I do not think I will ever enjoy it.

In the past week I have been on shift twice – once on Tuesday night and once on Saturday night. During that time I delivered 5 babies. I worked in theatre one morning with a medical office I like. I have attended 4 Caesarean Section. I feel dehumanised by the experience of delivering babies and doing procedures on these women. They are almost indefinitely in a great deal of pain and there is often very little I can do about it. I feel driven away from them by my powerlessness. One of my colleagues will sit with a patient, rubbing their back and holding their hands for hours while the patient goes the trials of labour. I find doing that too full-on for me. It feels like trying to hold a crumbling damn closed with your hand. The more pain my patients are in the less time I feel comfortable spending with them. I ask the sisters to give them something, some do, but most don’t. I tell them how to breathe, some breath, some scream and some howl. The louder they scream the father away I go. Their suffering makes me feel weak and powerless. It emphasises the inevitable fate of people, to be born alone, to suffer alone and to die alone. It makes me want to run screaming from the hell that labour ward becomes.

Between that I enjoy spending time with the 2 people I am working with. There are nurses that are really cool and I enjoy interacting with. Some of the doctors are also pleasant. Besides for when I am working with one of the nurses, who is really a very bitchy person, I feel useful. I have learned a hell of a lot and have enjoyed learning it. It feels good to learn in this environment and at this level.

Another thing which really gets to me in the labour ward is the frank indignity of childbirth. Women come in to the process frighten witless, in pain and generally alone. They then proceed to scream, shout, loose control of their bowel and bladder, and eventually wind up lying in a deep sticky puddle filled with a mixture of fresh and clotted blood, amniotic fluid, merconium, their own shit and possibly urine – naked exhausted and beyond caring. I’ve thought about it and I don’t know if it can be any other way. An enema would help with the shit, but besides that there’s nothing that can really be done.

One of the patients on Tuesday presented with poor maternal effort. This is when the baby is not descending down the end part of the birth canal, but has entered it. One in the birth canal it’s up to the mothers strength of will to push the baby out. I have shouted at women and been really hard and hectic to them this week, especially after this patient. She was in labour too long and the fetus was not happy. We called the doctors and they decided to do a vacuum extraction (ventouse) delivery. First up the woman got an episiotomy, which is when they took an insanely blunt pair of scissors and, after given some local anaesthetic, proceeded to crush and tear – not cut – the vagina at an angle towards the legs. It was bloody and looked like what I would imagine cutting leather with 2 spoons would look like. They then attached a vacuum pump onto this round cup like thing which reminded me of a metal plug. It had a hemisphere, cut open, which fits over the crown of the babies head, and a chain on the one end to pull with. And pull they did. Out the baby comes, with much less strain from the mother. Down side in the babies head gets swollen like one of those bee-hive hairstyles for like a week. It looked truly brutal and served to fuel my fire of shouting at patients with poor maternal effort.

On Friday I hung out with my cousin from London. He’s considerably older than me, but we get on pretty well. We hung out at his place, went for scone, then hung out some more. After that I went to my adopted family for shabbat, which was nice, then went to a friend of mine’s farewell party at her house. She is going to Israel for an indeterminate period of time. I saw a lot of people that I hadn’t seen in a while. It was nice to see them, though I felt quite disconnected. I saw an old friend from my year who’s going to either New York or London to do a post graduate course in acting. She’s a hero. Saw some people from camp which was decent.

After shift today I slept for about 4 hours, I then woke up with a sore throat from allergies, disturbed by the constant hum of the air-conditioners, the bright sun light, and hungry. I decided to go home and do some work, sleep in a really, decent bed, by anti-histamines and fetch my deodorant which I had left at home.

I’ve felt quite lonely this week. I am going to try having a move busy social week next week.

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Well, That was an absolutely thrilling day. I slept till 12, woke up, helped dad send a million photos to America. The connection timed out 3 times and he was not happy. Asus also has produced a lovely piece of software which downloads the latest bios version for you and then crashes before installing it over and over again.

I have people and am so not keen to return to lectures and night shifts. AHHH

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It has been quite a hectic week. It started off quite slowly. We had only 1 lecture on Monday, then we moved into Mobray Maternity Home. Its a 4 story large building which deals with all but the most complicated issues relating to childbirth. There are 9 of us currently staying at a residence building maintained by the university of cape town on the premises of MMH. I think it is a two story house that has been converted for the purpose of housing us students while we’re doing our obstetrics bloc their. I am staying in a room with 2 beds in it by myself. It has 2 windows, 1 overlooking some slummy area of Mowbray and the other looking onto the hospital.The curtains are thin and the flood lights of the hospital emit enough light for me to think that it is twilight all night long. There is also some air conditioning device that makes a loud humming noise 24/7. My bed is adequately comfortable, though it has a deep middle depression. I am using hospital linen, which smells slightly fecal, but I’m ok with that. The residence is quite and decent. I am enjoying staying there. Of the 9 of us on this sub-rotation, there my 2 close friends, who do 1 shift, 2 botswanan guys who do another shift, 2 botswanan women who do the third shift and 2 other other South Africans who take the 4 shift. We woke nights and have lectures and tutorials in the hospital on all week days. My group, for some reason, took the first day, the Monday, but I couldn’t do the shift because my dad was getting married on Tuesday.

Trying to attend a lecture of tutorial is not the most easy thing in the whole world. Often they are in obscure venues and the person running them is late because they had some emergency. I spend quite a lot of the lecture time arbing around. One lecturer we have, named Prof De Groot, who has been a doctor for 50 years and probably lecturing on obstetrics for as long, gave us a few fairly good tutorials. He told us this story about a woman who had had 2 cesarean sections for cephalopalvic disproportion and so desperately wanted to delivery the baby via a normal vaginal delivery, that she stayed home that she stayed home and pushed for days. When she eventually presented to MMH she had killed the baby, ruptured her uterus and caused avascular necrosis of her bladder, leading to a vesovaginal fistula which leaks urine constantly.

I went home at about 1 and helped cooked some snacks for the wedding. My aunty arrived, with my cousin and her 2 young children. I fetched my sister and once I had returned Sue’s youngest sister, who’s my age, had arrived with her boy friend as well as the marriage officer. The wedding was a fairly brief ceremony which took place under the tree in our back garden. It was meaningful and cute. My dad and Sue were absolutely glowing once it was done. We snacked, chatted and champagne was served. I hung around for quite a while, then lifted my sister home and rushed back to MMH for my catch up night shift.

I was on shift with the 2 Botswanan girls of whom I am quite fond. We have a fun teasing relationship. Once on shift I got 3 deliveries quite quickly. The first delivery was almost as I arrived. I walked through the labour wards, which are 7 ajoined, yet private rooms along a corridor. 1 Woman was about to deliver, so I asked the sister if I could deliver her and she oked me. After an hour or 2 another woman who I was monitoring delivered, and then, after inspecting the placenta and cleaning up I was walking passed a curtained off ward and a doctor said loudly that the woman behind the curtain was crowning and she wanted help. I performed that delivery. I then assisted in the resuscitation of a new born who had merconium stained liquor. The resus was quite hectic. The child needed to be intubated. After about half an hour of bagging the child was breathing its self. Later, on observation, it was posturing, a sign that it had brain damage from the period of time when it had no oxygen. As the day ended and the 7th of February came into being I was inserting a catheter into a fat black lady’s bladder. What a great way to start my birthday!

There was a period of time which was intensely boring, between about 1am and 5h30. The sister decided to show us around the ward. Now, there is something that really irritated me about nurses showing us around the ward. They spend a seriously large amount of time showing us simple things that we have no use for, and then brush over things that we don’t know and need to know. For example, the sister will spend 20 minutes (no joke) explaining to us about exactly what is on every shelf in every labour ward, but not about intubation. She will also show us things that nurses need to do and we don’t. Like assorted record books nurses need to fill out. The tour drove me nuts. I wanted to gouge my eyes out. I met a sweet woman whose job, it turned out, was to clean up bloody thing at night. She only works night and has been doing this jobs for years and years. She just mops and hoses down blood stained garments. Its really arb.

I urgently needed a mobile cot for a baby, so I went into the sluice room, tried to lift this dirty towel out of one and to my absolute horror there was a miscarried baby in it. I was freaked out for 10 minutes. Towards the end of my shift my 4th patient for the night delivered. I finally realised how amazing an organ the vagina is. It is the organ of colour. No other organ can produce every colour of the rainbow. Yellow of urine leaking, the light coca-cola brown of hypertensive liquor, bright red of fresh blood, dark red of clotted blood, green of merconium stained liquor, black of merconium, white of vaginal discharge, blue of hypoxic babies, grey of deceased masserated babies, pink of healthy babies, cloudy light blue of membranes. I am utterly blown away and disgusted by childbirth.

I managed to attend 2 lectures during the day, and a another one of those boring nurse tours during which I canned myself from lack of sense. During the second lecture, an excellent one from which I learned a lot, I was both sweating and shivering. I realised that on a scale from 1 to coping I was at a 1. I went to bed from 10h30 till 1h30. I then ate a bit and hung out with my vasity cronies. I went to a friend for nag, then hung out with another friend. I went home for a lovely chicken braai and then went back to Uni to sleep.

On Thursday and Friday was I was still recovering from the sleep deprivation. I really felt horrible and sore. I struggled to stay standing during tuts and to concentrate. There were a few good tuts and a few very boring tuts. I slept during almost every break we had on Thursday. On Thursday night I went out with one of my best friends, and their dad from Holland that I had never met. It was such a privilage to meet their dad, after all these years of friendship.

I was on shift again on Friday Night. By afternoon on Friday, sleeping in every break > 30min, I had recovered from the previous night shift. I cooked pasta for my team and then we went up to ward. The fun theme for the night was patients going to caeser. I assisted with my patients caeser. It was quite hectic because the woman didn’t want her baby. She was using the oral contraceptive pill, which failed, and she fell pregnant. She had a previous Caecer for either CPD/ fetal distress or failure to progress. She failed to progress, so we took her in. All the staff, equipment, medicines, etc for an unwanted child. We tried to give her a spinal block, which was taking too long to kick in, so we gave her a general, then the spinal block kicked in and her blood pressure dropped to 50/30, which is hectically low. I helped by dabbing the wound, retracting tissue, pulling tissue and following, which involves holding the thread being stitched and following it into the the hole made by the needle. Scrubbing in was difficult. I had to re-scrub once and get 2 new gowns because I contaminated them while getting into them. Surgery is very similar to dissection.

I half-heartedly monitored patients for the rest of the night. A patient in cubical 1 was shitting profusely and howling the entire night. When a mother had twins the presenting twin is referred to was twin A and the second twin to come is twin B. When a mother is shitting the joke is that she is delivering twin A. She really howled all night. Wow. She had polyhydraminos – too much amniotic fluid, so the doctors were worried about her. There was such a lovely woman with a baby in cubical 3. The woman in cubical 2 also howled a lot. Cubical 4 had twins, cubical 5 had a 16 year old G2P0 planned pregnancy, which I just didn’t deal with, and cubical had a patient I was monitoring with poor maternal effort. She hadn’t delivered by the time I went off shift. Cubical 1 delivered with such a fuckload of amniotic fluid, it was hectic.

I went off shift, exhausted, dirty and unimpressed. I feel very drained

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Last night my land line’s phone credit ran out so I was unable to blog.
I have had a pretty relaxed weekend. I’ve been having a backwards and
forwards dialog with a old friend of mine over facebook which has left
me feelings very anxious and has brought forward a lot of long buried
feelings which I feel and sincerely hope that I am now processing and
moving on from. I find it impossible to move on with friendships where
people have hurt me and do not and will not discuss feelings with me.

I know that in this case it was not a thing where blame can be passed.
I had feelings for this person and they did not feel the same way. I
knew they didn’t have feelings for me. They knew I had feelings for
them and felt angry with me for having feelings. I spent a year trying
to get over them without any progress. I really put everything I could
into moving on but I couldn’t, and it hurt a lot. I then hoped that if
I told her we would be able to talk about it and move on together. I
know her to be a kind caring person who would not spite anybody else,
and thought that she would react with her kindness.

It was naive of me not to realise that her difficulty handling
relationships and feelings would come into play strongly here, and that
she would not grow into the new challenge I was knowingly laying at her
feet. She stopped talking to me. Her and all of her friends, which
amounted to most of my friends at university. Over the months that
followed, although I missed her terribly, I tried my best to respect
her wishes and leave her alone.

Over the year plus that has passed my feelings for her have wained to
nothing. If she speaks to me it usually ends before I get a chance to
reply “How are you?” then walks away without waiting to hear.
Alternately there would be a day when we speak and are friendly and the
next day she looks through me. Her friends are much worse. Those who I
spent a year with as friends, and a year a half in a dissection group,
then a half year on a rotation with them and another year to come with
them again often look straight through me. I do not miss them though.

It has been hurting a lot, but through dialog this weekend I feel that
I have been able to move on by telling her how I have felt. I feel that
I have learned about myself and grown through this experience. I feel I
can move on from it now.

I went to go see the GP yesterday, after my regular doctor and another
doctor I tried call refused to see me on Friday afternoon at 4. The GP
said that he could not see my left ear drum, so it was either very
retracted from allergies, or has perforated. I miss being able to hear
out of my left year.

I have just finished packing my things for the weeks ahead in Mowbray
Maternity Home, a secondary level hospital for mother and their babies.
I will be living their, working night shifts once every 6 days. I will
be home sporadically during this period. I will be home on the 6th
because my dad is getting married, and probably on the 7th because its
my birthday. I really do not feel like dealing with any more pregnant
women

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I really cannot handle childbirth anymore. Its a good thing that I only have 9 more deliveries today. I feel exhausted after doing my relatively ineffective part of the delivery. All the work is actually done by the poor poor women. I cannot, for the very life of me understand why people want to have children. I understand far less why women want to have children, and I completely fail to grasp, in any respect why a women who knows what they are getting into want to have give birth to a child.

Today I arrived and things were quite busy. Once again the same college as yesterday had delivered a baby as I arrived. I felt quite unmotivated today. I took over monitoring one of my friends patients – a woman having her first child who was 8cm dilated and fully effaced. After trying very hard to keep her motivated and encourage her to do the right things – like walking around and not scream, we lay her on her side on a delivery bed and waited

and waited and waited. Turned out she had some form of delayed second stage and we had to refer her via flying squad to Groote Schuur. Shame

Meanwhile the antenatal ward was pretty full, mostly with primips who weren’t delivering any time soon. As I was about to leave one of them reached that wonderful stage. It is really so incredibly difficult to keep the woman motivated and happy while they are delivering. They are in a great deal of pain and it is very disempowering for me to watch and not be able to help. It is also seems humiliating and degrading to give birth – lying there, exposed, screaming in agony with fluid spraying out of numerous orifices and running all over. Then once the child’s out, every woman thinks its over and the not-so-funny part is its not. Then you get an injection, the afterbirth is delivered which is like the biggest anticlimax ever invented, then the vagina is cleaned out and checked for lacerations, which might require stitching. The whole thing is pretty horrible and always leave me feelings finished

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There is something special about every person. Each woman has their unique characteristics. With in the category of childbearing women. First time mothers are always excited and surprised by everything thing that happens and doesn’t happen. Women on their 2nd or third child are often pleasantly surprised by the ease and feel like a veteran, yet still glow and are surprised.

Multiparous woman are in a category of their own. Today a woman arrived at retreat MOU having delivered her 7th baby at home. The woman looked as though she had just gotten back from buying a packet of salt from the shops down the road – entirely unremarkable. We asked her what time the baby was born. She said that she didn’t know. We asked her what she was doing when it happened. She said she was watching isiDingo – The need. We deduced the baby was born around 9am. She claimed to not have realized she was pregnant. It sounded surprisingly like that scene out of Monty Python’s the meaning of life when that large “woman” gave birth while doing the dishes and her only reactions was “get that for me, will you dear!”

A woman came in who has high as a kite and I quickly lost interest in booking her. Another woman came in with HIV who had a chocolate brown discharge from her cervix. We quickly referred her to Groote Schuur.

I was sitting with one of my colleges in a corridors in the hospital and there was a table of of institution, contact persons and contact numbers for breast feeding advice which looked like this
Groot Schuur Hospital      Mary Smith    021 448 0000
Mitchel’s plain MOU         Joan Smith    021 744 0000
Then on the last line was
Stacey Blows                                       021 383 0000

A part of me desperately wanted to take down her number and phone her to say “Susan, I’ve been hearing these rumors….”

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